midwestmountainmama:

remember that time when jessica yee’s book just came out and somebody (i don’t remember if it was yee or latoya or some unrelated blogger—i think it might’ve actually been a white woman, just not sure) asked why no big feminist blog had done a write up or otherwise even…

I am really, really skeptical of “feminist” men these days.  With a lot of these guys, I feel like a tool they use to gain self-discovery or some such shit, and they take the blowback they get from other men and wear it like it’s some sort of proof that they are awesome martyrs or something.  And have a woman critique them, and you see the true colors come out.  You’re told they do this for a living (as opposed to us silly amateurs), that they’re doing us this great favor, that we should be grateful for male allies.  But I’m not grateful for men—or for anyone—who act like fighting oppression is a career opportunity, and I’m not grateful that a man who parrots what a thousand women have said is listened to and respected while the women who’ve been saying this for years are ignored and derided. (I mean, FFS, we’ve seen this in other SJ movements like antiracism work, and that shit irritates the fuck out of me.)  I’m not in this to make you a better person, I’m in this for liberation and actual social justice.  Which includes all women, not just the white, straight, cis middle-class or wealthy ones.